I like to plan things. Having a plan makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside, much the same way puppies or babies make some people feel. Plans are my lifeline. I love them. So when my husband and I made a plan for our family, we were very adamant that we needed at least one thing: enough time between the children so that the oldest would be able to help out around the house. There are nearly 4 years between our two kids – so one would think that we had done our planning to a tee…